What does this question mean you might ask? Well, I was thinking that as we age in our relationships with our loved ones, it seems that it gets harder to find time do the nice things (you could even call them tasks although they don’t feel like that in the beginning of a relationship). In most intimate connections whether with spouses, siblings, parents, children, friends and even co-workers, most people fall into habitual routines as the years go by. We get comfortable with our roles to the point that we may need to proactively think and plot our time in order to show and remind people we love them.
This desire to keep the love going in a mature relationship becomes an action to be thought about and then taken. This means that from an organizational perspective this is really time management. I have even heard several authors remind us that love is a verb and should be treated as such. So if we want better, deeper relationships we are going to have to think, strategize and design our “love” tasks.
Plan Your Tokens of Affection
The key word in this article is plan. Here are some ideas, many of them I’m certain you might have heard before but what we want to concentrate on is the concept of putting them into action by utilizing a paper or electronic planning tool so it actually happens.
- Cook his/her favorite meal.
- Write a beautiful card out and slip it into a lunch bag, suitcase, briefcase or pocketbook.
- Do one of his/her bigger chores and leave a Post It with a kiss; lipstick or chocolate.
- Schedule a mystery getaway with all the details taken care of.
- Buy a new outfit for him based on his favorite team or color.
- Have a special piece of jewelry made especially for her.
- Special Calendar Dates-if you know that birthday or anniversary is on the horizon plan it out. Please don’t wait for the day to come and say, “What would you like to do Honey?”
- Create a photo album, framed print, digital picture frame or photo gift of some type as a visual reminder of fond memories.
- Turn off all the electronics and electricity in the house and scheme a fake power failure. Then be sure to light some candles and spend time with each other.
The Happiness Advantage
I recently read an awesome book called The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor. I want to note some of the things he preaches because most people (in my mind) forget to love themselves. Of course what Shawn advises will also need to be applied to your time management skills, so this February see if you can discipline yourself into making a happier you:
- Daily Meditation
- Find Something To Look Forward To
- Commit Conscious Acts of Kindness
- Infuse Positivity Into Your Surroundings
- Spend Money (But Not On Stuff)
- Exercise a Signature Strength
Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day and don’t forget to plan it out.